the incurable dreamer

my dreams are my disease, chasing them my only option

2016, the year i finally started living

Well, that’s a wrap…2016 came, and in the blink of an eye, went. But unlike so many years before, I am looking back on this one with a big smile on my face. Usually, on New Year’s Eve, I promise myself, that this year I will do something, I won’t sit around, I WILL MAKE SOMETHING OF MYSELF AND MY LIFE – annnd, then I totally don’t, and before I know it, another wasted year is over. 2016, though, was entirely different. It wasn’t at all like the previous ones. This one was full of magic, growth, happiness and a steadfast commitment to fulfilling my dreams. I began chasing the absolute hell out of my dreams, and for the first time in my life believe they are going to come true.

I became a vegetarian again (my angst filled teenage attempt was a modest one at best), but this time it’s for real. When I was ramming stuffing up a turkey’s ass at Thanksgiving and found myself tearing up and apologizing to it over and over again, I knew I was about to head down a new path – a meatless one. I have a big heart for animals, always have, but The Goats of Anarchy, Rhea the Naked Birdie, Marnie the Dog, The Gentle Barn, Esther the Wonder Pig and Susie’s Senior Dogs (just a few of the animals/organizations I follow on Instagram), sent me over the edge and made my decision a no-brainer.

My heart explodes with love and joy when I see new videos and photos of Marnie the Dog. I love the shit out of this little dog. Follow @marniethedog on Instagram.

The night of June 28th was a significant one. I asked myself a question as I sat staring out my window, ‘if you had all the money in the world, Tanya, would you be sitting here right now?’ and the answer was an easy one – no. That was the moment. I decided I was no longer going to wait for life to happen – I was going to make it happen, and I did just that. The next day I gave up my apartment with the idea that I could save money by not paying rent. I took a risk that somehow it would all work out, that I would find a way – and, I have. With the help of friends and trusting strangers, I haven’t looked back. My destiny awaits me and my dream to live somewhere else in this world is within my reach, simply because I said, enough.

I discovered the beauty of 4:30 am sunrises and morning skies lit with moonlight by resisting fatigue and getting my ass out of bed every morning to put in the work necessary to make my biggest dream come true – writing my first novel.

In 2016 I learned that believing in myself holds power and that as long as I believe in me, there is no stopping what I can achieve. I started this blog to help me become a better writer and with the hope that someone would read it. Lucky me, some people do. I very much appreciate the time you take to read it, and the extra time you take to encourage me and offer your support – these things keep me going when my belief waivers or I lose confidence. So, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU!

When I was starting my blog, I wasn’t sure if I could just be myself or if some things are no-no’s when it comes to blogging. So, I googled ‘can I swear in a blog?’, and saw things like, ‘keep it clean,’ ‘use symbols,’ ‘swearing will cost you, readers’…I rolled my eyes and thought, well, that’s fucking stupid. So, I kept googling, and that is when my world changed, when I discovered the magical, whacked, inspiring and beautiful world of, Jenny Lawson, aka thebloggess. Jenny not only confirmed that ‘oh yeah’ I can swear, but that I have so much to gain by being open and vulnerable. I immediately followed her blog and bought every book she ever wrote. Her courage and honesty inspire me to stay the course and to keep writing with authenticity and to NEVER compromise myself to please someone else. One day I hope to hide under a table with her (read her books, you will know what I mean) and thank her for the courage she has given me.

Let’s Pretend This Never Happened, made me laugh so hard I was concerned I needed to seek immediate medical attention. Read this book, be inspired and laugh your damn head off!

I got a year older, and this year, so did my face. I remind myself every day, though, that wrinkles and growing old are a privilege, and that I am lucky for both.

Nov. 8th taught me that even a big dumb fucking idiot could be voted President. (Dear God, please save us all!) But, as I watch the ensuing chaos unfold, in utter shock and horror, I hold tightly to the belief that goodness still exists and that love can and will overcome. I have to believe this.

In 2016, I tossed the small things to the side and focussed on the big stuff, the shit that really matters. I reached out to a friend my heart would no longer allow me to ignore and together we are repairing a friendship that once was broken. This year I learned that my mistakes don’t define me, that even good people have to feel the weight of shame. I learned to forgive myself and learned to gift my absence to those who need it. I discovered that I am strong, that not only can I endure but can overcome the steepest of obstacles. I found true happiness, and with a heart that is full of love for those around me, I am moving forward.

OHHH, and a pug named Henry came into my life. As my friend says, he left his paw prints on my heart. He most certainly did. I know I did a whole post about him already, but I consider him to be one of my biggest blessings of 2016!

Oh Henry, thank you. xoxo

2016 was good to me, but just to make sure I didn’t forget for a second what matters most, it recently dished out another stark reminder that we are here but for a moment, and that every. second. counts. I didn’t need the reminder, thanks, I already know.

My co-worker, Mick died two years ago, doing what he loved, and his loss had a profound impact on my life. I will never be the same because of him. His philosophy on life was a simple one, to live life with no inhibitions and fearless exuberance. That is exactly what he did, and, this year, I think that is exactly what I did.

To all of you, Happy New Year!

May good health, life, happiness, and love be yours every day in 2017. Remember to live in the moment, to cherish each and every one and know that even in darkness, there is light.

And, I also hope that this year, you find your strength and courage to reach for the impossible and make it possible – because it is.

Much love! xoxo


this night, this wish


just maybe, larry isn’t a serial killer


  1. Anonymous

    such a great post tanya – you are amazing and i love reading your blog! here’s to 2017! keep posting!

    • the incurable dreamer

      Aww, thank you! Happy New Year and all the best in 2017!! 🙂

      • Anonymous

        Loved your blog. Keep it up! All the best for 2017.
        Love you

        • the incurable dreamer

          Auntie!!! Thank you! All the best to you in 2017. I love you, Neicy xo

  2. Looks like we’re both proud and out-loud Jenny Lawson fans! Enjoying your blog and happy to be part of what will likely be your growing fan club! Keep writing.

    • the incurable dreamer

      Gabe, that is so incredibly nice of you to say! Thanks for following, and for reading, I appreciate the support. You are a damn good writer, so I take this as a massive compliment – thanks so much! And yes, Jenny Lawson is one of my favourite people on the planet and she has made each day for me a little brighter! Happy New Year to you and your family!

  3. Rita

    Happy New Year Tanya! Looking forward to reading your novel!

    • the incurable dreamer

      Thanks so much, Rita! Happy New Year to you guys as well!

  4. Anonymous

    I love the shit out of everything about you… xoxox

  5. So glad I found you through Jenny! Congratulations on your 2016, and much luck and love in 2017.

    • the incurable dreamer

      Thank you so much, Dory! Thanks for reading and following along! I hope your year ahead is filled with only great things! Happy New Year!

  6. Anonymous

    Amazing post and not just because it features the most gorgeous pug ever!

  7. I’m so glad 2016 was such a great year for you. I truly hope 2017 is just as amazing and more 🙂

    • the incurable dreamer

      Thank you so much! I hope that 2017 is an extraordinary one for you! I wish you all the best! 🙂

  8. Di

    Very raw, real and beautiful Tanya. Wonderful to see you have taken action and creating the future you wish to. And all the best with your novel… from reading these last few posts, you’ve got what it takes. I could go on reading, seriously, but I have to sign off for today. Big hugs coming to you. Oh and happy ‘belated’ 2017 ???

    • the incurable dreamer

      Thank you so much Di, for reading and taking the time to leave comments filled with encouragement and support. Becoming a writer has been my dream since I was 12-years-old and without the support of others, it would make it so much more challenging. Life led me down a different path, and I understand now that there were things I needed to know and lessons I had to learn before I could become my best self. With that knowledge and understanding, I believe in myself for the first time in my life and know I am going to make my dreams come true! I can’t wait to send you a copy of my book when it is finally finished! I appreciate you voicing your belief in me more than you can possibly imagine – it means so very much! THANK YOU!! And I am really looking forward to reading your posts and getting to know you better! All the best, Di!! xo

  9. Di

    Kindness always makes me emotional, Tanya. Your beautiful comments…
    I’d love to buy your book when it’s done. And I’m super sensitive and know the depths that encouragement can penetrate. It’s so important to me that you feel encouraged by my comments, my friend.
    You are so kind and generous and I’m now the one thrilled that you are interested in this little beginner’s blog. THAT means so much to me!
    Hugs again to you ???

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